Why are people so harsh to brides who want to wear a black wedding dress? Not a goth dress, a cocktail dress.?
Everyone whines that it’s tradition to wear white, in the Victorian era brides wore their best dress, black, pink, blue, red, white was not a common choice. White was only worn after Queen Elizabeth wore a white dress to her wedding. It was a trend the queen set, if she had worn silver then everyone would wear silver to immitate her. Puffy white dresses are not for eveyone, some brides have style and want to wear a black cocktail dress to have a chic wedding. Cookie cutter weddings are boring and so are all the identical puffy a-line strapless dresses everyone wears. There is nothing wrong with a black wedding dress, it’s a choice based on personal taste. Why does everyone assume if you wear black you are a goth or going to a funeral, black is a powerful color that’s why professionals have closets fully stocked with black suits.
Ok it was Queen Victoria in 1840 not Queen Elizabeth, simple error.
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I agree…. which is why I shall not be having a conventional wedding. I’m going for anything other than white. Black is cool.
this is your special day. screw tradition. you can wear whatever u want, just make sure it’s something u really want. good luck
People like traditions I guess. Who cares what color your dress is, its YOUR wedding. If people want to talk, let them. It’s not your problem they cannot accept the fact that you happen to like the color black. I’m thinking going non-traditional with my dress as well. I don’t care, I’m paying for it.
its tradition, black is a gothic color, and it if you wear it to your wedding then its like you are attending a funeral, and you are bringing sorrow to the people. they wear white because it is pure, black isn’t.
There’s an old saying, "Married in black, wish you were back…" Sounds like you’re confident enough not to care what anyone thinks. Just stop telling people. Let them find out at your wedding.
People can get stuck in the traditions & norms of society. It’s your wedding, where what you want.
i guess tradition is tradition.
Women wear white to show that they are pure. You know white.. a very "pure" kinda color. Wearing black.. would be like TOTALLLY not pure you know? hahaha. seriously though.
i guess black would be appropriate..a woman marrying is going to her own spiritual funeral
who cares it’s your wedding do what you want screw them they have thier wedding to wear white
like you said it’s not traditional. Go for it.
I am getting the same reactions because I want to wear a white and blue dress at my wedding. Everybody says "the white symbolizes purity and a new beginning". But I say who cares! It is your day! You can decide to wear whatever you want to wear. Tell them if they don’t like it then don’t come!
Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!
I think it’s stupid that everyone thinks a ‘wedding dress’ has to mean a ‘white dress’. When I get married, I’m thinking of a red dress-my favorite color. Wearing a wedding dress in a color other than white, to me, shows power and the ability to stand up to "tradition" and make a statement.
And by the way, I agree totally with you on the white, strapless puffy a-line dresses.. There’s no originality!
Finally, someone else who shares the same opinion..
Because it looks like you’re going to a funeral, not a wedding! lol
You seem like a very strong opininated person that doesnt care what others think. So why do you care what people think of you wearing a white dress. Society has placed these guidelines that everyone feels need to be followed. I wore a white dress on my wedding day. Not because of Queen Elizabeth (I didnt even know about that until just now that I read it). I wore white because in my culture white represents purity and purity is a sign of love and respect for your partner.
Wear what you please. Its your wedding day. Just dont listen to all the comments people make because there will be comments. But just let them go and enjoy your day.
Why do you care what other people think? If you want to wear a black dress to your wedding do it and be proud. It’s YOUR wedding. I wore brown velvet on my wedding day and I looked absolutely ravishing.
Did people make harsh coments about it behind my back? I’m seriously asking because I have no idea. 
Don’t care, life’s too short.
Is this your wedding? I am assuming so and I want to congratulate you for your upcoming marriage. I’m so happy for you!
It’s your wedding and it’s your day! No one should be able to tell you what to do, who cares about what they think? It’s your day and you should do whatever pleases you! If you want to wear black, then go for it! I’m sure you’ll look beautiful and I’m sure you’ll enjoy it!
Good luck and take care!
i think that white has something to do with pure, inocent, clean, ect. where alot relate black to death, dark, gloomy.but i do agree with linda. it is you and your husbands day. wear whatever you two want. do it in your birthday suite if the law in your area allows.
from your statement, i think you already know what you are asking. you just want someone to back you up on it and tell you to go for it.
************************* GO FOR IT *****************************
People are sheeppoles. They sometimes won’t think for themselves
There is nothing wrong with breaking tradition it is none of their buisness anyway.
Black represents mourning. It was predominantly worn at funerals. White represents purity. In past generations, Sex before marriage was highly frowned upon. Therefore, people wore white wedding dresses, to show they were pure. This then became a tradition.
However, if you are getting married yourself, it’s your day, wear what you like. These days it is less likely to be frowned upon, as through time the superstition has faded. Good luck.
Black denotes seriousness, as you describe its a powerful color, very professional. The modern image of a bride is a more innocent, dare I say virginal look and less of the business, power or vamp look that black says. Color has important messages to say and for a wedding black is unconventional to the point that its easy to have your choice become the focus of attention instead of you or your wedding. You won’t necessarily be considered chic, since chic denotes a knowledge of whats appropriate to the occasion and as a bride you may like it, but its no more appropriate than an orange jumpsuit with purple sneakers, or going nude, both have been done, but to what effect? There are fabulous slipper satin bias cut gowns that are sophisticated and elegant without demanding an opinion on the part of the guest. It doesn’t even have to be white, possibly a silver or pale gold? But red or black for better or for worse carry their own connotations that must be considered.
Wouldn’t you rather have them talk about the beautiful bride and the great food and the lovely flowers than have the first thing out of their mouths be MY GOD she wore BLACK!!!
if you want to wear a black dress to your wedding then do it. i’m wearing red. don’t focus on what everyone’s opinions are regarding your choices. do what you want to do on your wedding day.
You can’t change the way people react. People will react badly to a bride in black. Your choice.
(P.S. Queen Elizabeth lived three hundred years before the Victorian Era, and was never married.)
I totally understand. I am a bride to be and I had planned a Medevil themed wedding BUT then my fiancees family found out and said if I wore a Black dress they were not coming because they thought it was wrong. Keep that in mind, talk to family and see what they think…unless you dont care….its your wedding and you should be able to express yourself however you want to…its up to you. Good luck.
Because everyone thinks if you don’t follow tradition you are strange or the relationship won’t work out… I think its silly to follow each tradition to the letter but that is what floats my boat. If someone wants to follow it they can. If someone tells me what I "need" to do or not do on my wedding they can fly a kite.
Ignore the critics and enjoy your day your way!
How about this?
Wear a Beige/creme, purple, or skyblue, colored wedding gown for the wedding, and then change into a black cocktail dress for dancing and fun. You can have best of the both worlds!
It’s just icky. Don’t be so defensive; it shows you know it’s odd.
I don’t think every bride should wear white, only if you haven’t cheated on your husband to be then it’s okay to wear white but the reason is because they cheated
I think you should be able to wear whatever color you want to to YOUR wedding. If you want to wear black, go ahead.